How to know that it’s
a break up?!
When we are in any relationship, at the beginning we only
see that bright side of everything in it, those nice days, those good traits
about our spouse, we ignore all those inner doubts that shouts out from now and
then warning us that this relation might not work out and reach this happy
ending scenario. Sometimes we fool ourselves for the sake of having a life
partner, for sticking to that old love story that we wish it can never end, but
things change….
Not every break up means that you easily gave up. Break up
can be breaking fake rules, signs, and communication, breaking up the fear of
being lonely, the fear of departure. It’s not easy to start a new page after a
long relationship and act that there are no more inner feelings hidden inside.
Yes Break up hurts
alot, but what hurts more is feeling lonely in a relationship, feeling that
your spouse can’t put a smile on your face anymore; can’t handle
responsibility, can’t face problems bravely, can just only escape and hide
thinking that the magic stick will solve all problems and fix all broken
pieces.
Sticking too much to a fake relationship can keep you
forever stuck in the place of nowhere, feeling lost, silly, desperate and
afraid to take any risk (by thinking that departure is a big risk!).
( A
true fact: NOBODY CHANGES HIS PERSONALITY FOR THE SAKE OF ANYONE EXCEPT FOR
HIM/HERSELF)
So if you feel that your relationship is at risk and can’t
judge whether it’s just a normal dispute or a break up, then check out our those tips:
·
Feeling Lonely: feeling that you are
the only responsible one for the success of this relationship, observing and
coming over those ups & downs totally alone.
·
Lost trust: you can’t trust your
spouse anymore, can’t believe all the compliments being said and feeling that
he/ she is a good liar!
·
Strange Attitude: as if you are
dealing with a totally brand new person you didn’t know, the attitudes are so
weird, you put in so much effort trying to explore his/her new traits.
·
Fake Promises: mostly promises are
attached to Men, and Men have to be up to
their words, and to their promises, if you can’t do something so you have to be
extremely frank about that. Promises are not only proved by words, Actions
speak louder.
·
Losing passion: Passion about being
close to each other, to remain as one, passion about the relation itself,
taking it for granted, making it boring and just a waste of time.
·
Being stuck: stuck in the nice old
memories, don’t have any more present bright days, present is just lost in the place
of nowhere, future is unknown and risky to
keep going to it.
·
Mind & Heart arguments: whenever
you feel that both “Mind & Heart” started
to conflict a lot, can’t reach a compromise together anymore, then this is a
big warning alert!, it means that your heart has had enough and listened to the
logic facts that show that this is a win-lose relation; your spouse is winning
his self-esteem, his safety, his comfort zone, and you are losing your peace of
mind, dignity and welfare.
Finally Happy Endings are not
only attached to “Love & Marriage”,
it might be attached to happiness in finding your own self and knowing its real
value, happiness in feeling blessed by being surrounded by family and true
friends.
“JUST
BREAK UP YOUR FEAR FROM WHAT FUTURE HOLDS”
By: Sarah Osman
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